This chick has been blessed with some really great friendships. I’ve lived through seasons of having lots of great women pour into my life and I’ve lived through some seasons of having only one or two really great women pour into my life. I think it’s natural. You grow up, you move, you get married or they do, you have kids or they do, you change jobs, you move (again), your kids grow up, you work in the home or out of the home….get my drift? Life is all about changes and I think it’s natural for some relationships to remain and some not to. It’s okay.
There was a period in my life where I found myself waist deep in serving in vain. It had all started out with the right motives. I wanted to go back to work part time in order to be a part of our getting out of debt plan. My sweet husband and I really felt that God was directing our steps. Except for one thing. Part time turned into full time, which turned into two roles, which turned into a very public and demanding role. All for God. Except all the “working for Jesus” became work at the expense of my family. My primary ministry got my 3rds or 4ths. Not good. Truly not aligned with God’s Word. I was a mess. I tell you all that because it explains my outlook on friendships in this season.
I treasure my friendships.
I haven’t had much time in the past 3 years to nurture my girlfriends. Working full time, raising two Senior girls and just sent my oldest off to college. I am overjoyed that God continues to allow me to hang out with great chicks on Monday night as we dig into His Word together. And my sweet husband has a demanding job that sometimes takes him to far away places for long periods of time. My mom lives close and I like to make sure she’s staying independent as long as possible. Doesn’t leave much girl time, does it? At least not in this chick’s heart. I’ve spent too many years not focusing on Him or my family the way He has called me to. I’m not going back there.
I’m currently in a season of having just a couple of really great women pour into my life. They are there for me physically, they call, they write, they text, they giggle and most importantly.. they pray. There’s no click. There’s not any judgment. There’s no demand or expectation of time. It’s all a grateful mix of the time we do have together and letting each other off the hook when we can’t get in girl time while we handle the details of our primary ministry. It’s the real deal. No games, no pretenses, honesty, vulnerability and doing life as a community.
I love my online friends. I do. They are such an encouragement to me and speak Truth into my life constantly. But they really don’t KNOW me, ya know? I think you have to actually “do” the thing together to truly know and be known to one another. Online friends can become IRL friendships but they take intentionality. True, deep friendships.. they last a really long time and they don’t have strings attached to them. Just lots of grace and love and forgiveness.
“God didn’t set us up for an angry rejection but for salvation by our Master, Jesus Christ. He died for us, a death that triggered life. Whether we’re awake with the living or asleep with the dead, we’re alive with him! So speak encouraging words to one another. Build up hope so you’ll all be together in this, no one left out, no one left behind. I know you’re already doing this; just keep on doing it.” 1 Thessalonians 5:9-11
I pray that you have true friendships in your life. If you don’t… stay tuned in the weeks to come to chime in on ways to build up hope, so we will be altogether in this.
I met Gussy (her real name is Maggie.. but she loves it if you call her Gus) at Blissdom 2010. She is a delight. A sweet, creative chick who is a complete joy to be around! I immediately fell in love with her and the way she made everyone feel like we had been friends forever. If you count Gussy as one of your close girlfriends, then girl.. you are blessed! She’s celebrating with me in the re-launch of JustaChick and offering a $30.00 gift certificate to her shop.
Accessorize this fall with Gussy ruffles! Inside the shop you’ll find headbands, clutches and tote bags in warm, bold colors that you can easily add to accessorize your outfit. Buy a Gussy for yourself or give to a friend — either way it will come adorable wrapped and sealed with love. XO!
I’ll announce the winner tomorrow morning first thing.. all you have to do is leave me a comment with an answer to these questions: Do you have close, true girl friendships? If you do, how do you build each other up? If you don’t, what keeps you from encouraging one that He’s put in your life?
I can’t wait to hear from you!